What Gives Teens a Reason to Get Up in the Morning?
And Why That Question Might Matter to All of Us.
Written by Mom
✏️ Quick Quiz:
When you wake up in the morning, do you…
☐ Reach for your phone before anything else?
☐ Feel like you have nothing to look forward to?
☐ Jump into a busy day, but still feel kind of empty?
And when someone asks what you really care about, do you…
☐ Struggle to put it into words?
☐ Say “I don’t know” without thinking?
☐ Wish you had something meaningful to point to?
If you nodded yes to any (or all) of these, keep reading—because that’s exactly what I’ve been reflecting on.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about what truly motivates teens—and what might be missing when they wake up feeling unmotivated, unsettled, or unsure of what they care about.
And truthfully, while this article focuses on teenagers, these are the kinds of questions people might wrestle with at every age. I’m sharing some personal reflections on that—not expert advice, but an honest look at what I’ve seen in the world around me, through my years as a teacher, and from our family’s journey.
I hope it resonates with you.
Teens need a reason to wake up with energy and direction.
And while many seem engaged and motivated—pursuing interests they care about and staying connected to the people around them—enough are struggling that it makes me stop and reflect.
During my years teaching in public schools, and just by observing the world around me, it’s something I’ve seen in many situations. Some teens seem disconnected—isolated on their phones, lacking real connection with their families and surroundings. Academics alone don’t seem to fulfill them—and can even deepen that sense of discomfort. Something feels off.
What is it they’re not getting?
What if the missing piece was something deeper—something called purpose?
Let’s try to define what purpose really means.
We all need a reason—a deeper “why” behind what we do. Purpose is that “why.” It’s the motivation behind our choices, dreams, and actions. It’s what makes life feel meaningful. Purpose helps us decide what’s worth our time, what to walk away from, and what to keep fighting for—even when things get hard. |
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For teens, it might come through things like sports, dance, art, or deep friendships—anything that brings connection, expression, or a sense of growth. But when those meaningful anchors are missing, it’s easy to feel lost or unmotivated. That’s why finding even a small spark of purpose can give life a deeper sense of direction.
In Don’t Keep Your Day Job, (a book I highly recommend if you’re trying to build belief in yourself and start your own business) Cathie Heller writes:
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